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contributed by Doug Anderson Whoever said breaking up was hard to do was definitely on to something, and if you have recently left a relationship, you might be feeling at a bit of a loss. Your relationship might have been a big part of your life and if it is gone, you may feel empty and without purpose. The truth is, many of us mourn relationships a lot longer than we should, so make sure that you keep a few things in mind when you are trying to move on. 1.Get outOne of the first things that you may want to do when you get out of a relationship is to curl up and hide, and while this might work for the next few days, you'll find that it's a poor coping mechanism no matter how comfortable it feels. Enlist some friends to help you out and find situations where you feel most comfortable, whether it is a poetry reading or a loud party. It's all about putting yourself back out there and getting back to normal. 2.VentDon't repress your emotions. For some people, getting over a breakup involves a lot of venting and letting off of pressure. Find a good friend or family member who will listen to you rant as long as you need to over what has happened, and express your pain and your grief. You must be careful not to make this a habit, but you'll find that even doing this just once can be instrumental towards healing and getting on with your life. 3.Find something just for youSometimes, it can help to bring something into your life that your ex never touched or was a part of. It can be adopting a new pet or getting a new job or taking a class. You'll find that just having one thing that doesn't bring up bad memories can be very important towards getting you back on your feet and feeling better. It will also give you a distraction should you need it. 4.Don't do anything drasticA break-up can upset a lot of things in your life, but don't let that tendency go on! Some people, after the end of a relationship, will do things that range in severity from cutting their hair to moving across the country. Remember that the changes that you make are the ones that you have to live with, so you might want to put off the big decisions until you are feeling more stable. 5.Be aware of your feelingsThis is not venting. Be aware of what you are feeling and then make sure that you can control it. It's okay to realize that you are angry, or hurt, but don't let it control your life. Don't take it out on people who don't deserve it, and make sure that you have opportunities to feel other things by getting out and extroverting! About the Author: Doug is the owner of the Superior Health Information web site and writes about relationship issues. He also teaches various languages at Learn a Language Faster! |
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