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40 years ago, I was a young man, and found an interesting young woman that I wanted to spend time with. Being a novice at relationships and sex, I more or less fumbled my way along. We began dating, had sex, built our relationship, got married, and stayed married for 35 years. But it took four months of work until I discovered how to give my partner an orgasm. I certainly enjoyed the sex, but she more or less tolerated it. I read every book I could find, watched porno films, and tried to figure out what I was doing wrong. Eventually, I more or less stumbled on how to do it, and all of a sudden, our sex life improved markedly. Once my partner figured out that sex could give her great pleasure, she wanted it all the time. Lucky me. But it took me four months to learn how to do it right.

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A few years ago, I was working on contract in Sydney, Australia, as a Test Manager for a large company producing electronic terminals for the health industry. I had a team of 8 testers, one of whom was an Indian fellow, whom I will call Rajesh (not his real name). Rajesh came to me one day and said, "Doug, I will be away next week. I have to go home to Bangalore to get married."

This was a surprise, because I knew he was single and had no girlfriend.

"My parents have arranged for me to marry a girl, and I have to go."

Another surprise. I had no idea arranged marriages were still done in modern-day India.

"Oh, yes," he said, "it is being very common."

"Do you know the girl?" I asked.

"No," he said, "I don't know her or her family, but my parents say we are a good match."

So off he went, and soon he was back.

About a week after he returned, I asked him how it was going.

"Oh, pretty good, I am thinking. We are adjusting to each other. It is being quite different living with someone."

I didn't ask him about sex, but assumed they were having sex, since they were married and living together.

The project ended, we went our separate ways. About 9 months after Rajesh's return to Sydney, I got a card in the mail saying that he and his wife had a new baby boy. I called him up and we had lunch.

I commented on the timing of the birth, and he said, "Yes, she got pregnant right away, but we didn't find out for about 6 weeks until she had a checkup because she stopped having her period."

At this point, he relaxed and opened up, and told me they were both virgins when they were married. They were both 24, but in India, pre-marital sex is not common, so neither had any experience and didn't really know what to do. Neither had read any books, never watched a porno film, and their parents had given them no information other than to say "make lots of babies".

He said that the first time was very painful for her, and she bled a lot, but for him it was very exciting, too exciting, and he came right away. Because he caused her pain, not happiness, he felt very bad.

I asked him if he loved her.

He said, at that time, no, she was his wife, but he had just met her, he didn't love her. Now after having lived with her for 9 months, he was beginning to love her, enjoyed being with her, and was happy that she was having his baby.

"But Doug," he said, "I still come too fast and she still does not enjoy sex. I have bought a lot of books, but it's not working, I don't know how to make her feel good like me, and I don't know what to do."

So I gave him some fatherly advice; we talked for over an hour about sex and explicit things to try and how to set the mood, and so on. I warned him that this would all be harder now that he would have a baby in the apartment, but he wanted to make the marriage work, so he said he would try very hard to share the responsibility of the baby and to make her happy. So I knew he really did love her, and wanted to make the marriage a success.

At the time, he would have benefitted from this book, The Female Orgasm Black Book, but it was not available, nor was there anything similar on the market.

Last updated 20 Apr 2009