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contributed by Erik Michaels Ok, she dumped you. Life seriously sucks right now. Don't let it get the best of you though, there are plenty of things you can do to turn this whole mess around. Have a listen to these tips, this doesn't have to be as hard as it seems. First tip:Cut off contact. Completely. No more phone calls, no more text messages, no more emails... no more "oh, I didn't know you were going to be here!" Drop it as definitely as it can be dropped. I realize there can be issues with you two working or going to class together, but if that's the case, keep it civil during those times and let there be nothing more than that. This'll help you a lot by giving you both some room to breathe and discover what it's like living on your own. For you, that can mean "hey, this isn't too bad" and for her it could be "oh my god, what did I do... life is so empty without him!" Second tip:Girls tend to get more emotional than guys... it's usually them you see in the movies locked in a dark room sobbing their eyes out, but that doesn't mean we guys are made out of stone. We can have a really hard time of things, too. What you need to do is not let it control you. For a guy, that can mean slumping into a rut like girls more often can, or it can become more destructive behaviors that affect the people around you, too. Remember, it's your choice how you let yourself behave. Third tip:Stay busy. There are a lot of things in life that have nothing to do with your ex and can still put a smile on your face. Get up and get out. Exercise, play video games with your pals, hit a few parties... do whatever is a good time for you and your buds, and you'll be amazed at how fast the pain becomes less important. It may be hard to kickstart this, but if you do, it'll be very rewarding. How you act is an indicator of how your life is going, and if your ex sees you acting like a depressed little wretch, she'll be glad she got out from under you. If you rise above the hurt you're feeling and continue to live your life, however... that builds respect and makes you a lot more attractive. Regardless of whatever else you're doing to get your ex back, you should be careful that you present an attractive image not just to your ex, but to everyone around you. Just break up? Get instant relief from break up pain and discover The Magic of Making Up. About the Author: Erik is a professional writer specializing in relationship issues. |
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